many were going to get it. Blogger ignorant u see.
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Monday, September 13, 2010
Apology
For all who had to read thru my earlier post. Apologies. Did not realise so
many were going to get it. Blogger ignorant u see.
many were going to get it. Blogger ignorant u see.
Costly Mistake.???
Well, it all started of quite nicely with me being born in April of 76 and a cousin of mine just a few months ahead of me in Dec of 75. 4 years ahead of us was born another person in this world that will touch the lives of me and my cousin in varied ways. Is it his fault.? Is it mine.? Or is the world around us the perpetuators of this.? Well, the answer still eludes me. Let me know if you know.
For about 21 years of my life I led a pretty care free life. Good friends, cousins, parents, teachers etc. Everyone was good. Everything was fine. Then one day my friend, the one that was born 4 years ahead, who is introduced to me by my cousin and who always claimed that he was my cousins best friend, my cousin and myself decide to start a venture together. I am not able to pull in too much of captial, being of not-s0-rich financial background, however, everyone accepted and we started off. Things were not rosy the first few years, they never are in entreprunership, are they. Well, that being said, I could not manage very well with lack of income and hence decided to part ways. So we all end up drinking in a local hangout and I propose this to my cousin and friends (couple of others who joined). There was little hesitation from the others. They all looked like they understood.
Things move on. I find a job with Dell and I move to Bangalore. Things seem to be moving on fine, or so I assume, when suddenly one fine day I get to understand that my cousin is unhappy that I had left. And that surprises me. So I call him and all he has to say is that I have been talking unhealthy things about him and this 4 year old frien behind their back. Which surprises even more since I have no clue what is happening in chennai and my cousin states that I have been remarking on what is happening in Chennai. How will I know.? and why my cousin feels that I know.? Still beats me.
Well since he is upset and so is apparently this 4 year friend of mine, they decide to ask me to pay up 2.5-3 Lakhs for something that I had quit 2 years earlier. That surprises me further since I personally had repaid close to that amount for loans taken for the venture and for deficiencies I had faced since there was no salary taken. Well in this situation I had one request for my cousin and friend, there was a loan taken in my friends name from a financial institution (hereinafter FI) for which my mother in law had signed surety for. She had already got one notice from that FI for due's which were not paid up. It would be interesting to know that MIL underwent a bypass surgery and is a retried, no pension lady. I requested my cousin and friend to give me evidence of closure of that loan since my MIL was too tense and that for some reason put them in the offence. No clue why.??
Well a few months down the lane my MIL gets another notice, a visit by a collection agent and a visit by a guy who completes eviction process (jafti, for those new to this word). I talk to my cousin and he says he can not help and asks me to talk my friend. I call him and he literally threatens me. Yes, you read it right. Threaten. He tells me that this is all nothing new to him and he knows how to get out of this without paying and that my MIL will be pulled to the court and hence I need to pay up the whole due. He also adds that he is not talking to me for "my face", but for my MIL's face. (un moonjikkaga pesala da, un mamiyar moonjikkathan pesuren). Well, that is really cool, is it not.
Now I am running from pillar to post to get this sorted. Everyone I know tells me that I will end up paying the debt since it is my mistake (MIL's) of signing the surety. But with all the interest that has accumulated so far, it comes close to 4.5 Lakhs.
Now tell me. Is this not a costly lesson in friendship.? Is this not a costly lesson for being nice.? Is this not a costly lesson for trusting that friends wont screw you up.? Is this not a costly lesson for believing that your cousin will think for a minute before deciding how you came to know about things others claim that you know.? Is it not a costly lesson to understand that people close to you are actually scheming day and night to screw you up.?
Needed some place to share my frustration and what better way to write it out. Now I feel a little better.
For about 21 years of my life I led a pretty care free life. Good friends, cousins, parents, teachers etc. Everyone was good. Everything was fine. Then one day my friend, the one that was born 4 years ahead, who is introduced to me by my cousin and who always claimed that he was my cousins best friend, my cousin and myself decide to start a venture together. I am not able to pull in too much of captial, being of not-s0-rich financial background, however, everyone accepted and we started off. Things were not rosy the first few years, they never are in entreprunership, are they. Well, that being said, I could not manage very well with lack of income and hence decided to part ways. So we all end up drinking in a local hangout and I propose this to my cousin and friends (couple of others who joined). There was little hesitation from the others. They all looked like they understood.
Things move on. I find a job with Dell and I move to Bangalore. Things seem to be moving on fine, or so I assume, when suddenly one fine day I get to understand that my cousin is unhappy that I had left. And that surprises me. So I call him and all he has to say is that I have been talking unhealthy things about him and this 4 year old frien behind their back. Which surprises even more since I have no clue what is happening in chennai and my cousin states that I have been remarking on what is happening in Chennai. How will I know.? and why my cousin feels that I know.? Still beats me.
Well since he is upset and so is apparently this 4 year friend of mine, they decide to ask me to pay up 2.5-3 Lakhs for something that I had quit 2 years earlier. That surprises me further since I personally had repaid close to that amount for loans taken for the venture and for deficiencies I had faced since there was no salary taken. Well in this situation I had one request for my cousin and friend, there was a loan taken in my friends name from a financial institution (hereinafter FI) for which my mother in law had signed surety for. She had already got one notice from that FI for due's which were not paid up. It would be interesting to know that MIL underwent a bypass surgery and is a retried, no pension lady. I requested my cousin and friend to give me evidence of closure of that loan since my MIL was too tense and that for some reason put them in the offence. No clue why.??
Well a few months down the lane my MIL gets another notice, a visit by a collection agent and a visit by a guy who completes eviction process (jafti, for those new to this word). I talk to my cousin and he says he can not help and asks me to talk my friend. I call him and he literally threatens me. Yes, you read it right. Threaten. He tells me that this is all nothing new to him and he knows how to get out of this without paying and that my MIL will be pulled to the court and hence I need to pay up the whole due. He also adds that he is not talking to me for "my face", but for my MIL's face. (un moonjikkaga pesala da, un mamiyar moonjikkathan pesuren). Well, that is really cool, is it not.
Now I am running from pillar to post to get this sorted. Everyone I know tells me that I will end up paying the debt since it is my mistake (MIL's) of signing the surety. But with all the interest that has accumulated so far, it comes close to 4.5 Lakhs.
Now tell me. Is this not a costly lesson in friendship.? Is this not a costly lesson for being nice.? Is this not a costly lesson for trusting that friends wont screw you up.? Is this not a costly lesson for believing that your cousin will think for a minute before deciding how you came to know about things others claim that you know.? Is it not a costly lesson to understand that people close to you are actually scheming day and night to screw you up.?
Needed some place to share my frustration and what better way to write it out. Now I feel a little better.
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